This advice is going to sound totally counterintuitive, though in today’s self-care age, any advice that hopes to crash through the noise of our day-to-day life (and the clickbait-y internet), generally is. For years, I’ve been chasing success. It’s been the gold star that validates me, the thing I push toward every day, because honestly, what’s wrong with taking pride in what you do, and wanting to get better?
But, this little semantics-based essay in Rob Bell?s read more
Something about me loves feeling “capable” — that sure, I can take on that extra project, I can organize that party, I can tack that on to my to-do list. There’s a high from feeling efficient, responsible, for just getting it done. And plus, when you do it yourself, you know it’s done the way you want it.
How full of myself does that sound?! And the reality, honestly, is that the more I take on, the less efficiently or thoroughly I do any of it. It?s a rut Iread more
It was a simple enough statement — the kind you could easily overlook in a conversation — but it shot right through me, taking me from “how isn’t it?” to “whoa, wait — we need to talk through this” in a matter of seconds. It was a simple one-liner, but one I won’t forget any time soon.
“Forgiveness is not reconciliation.”
The statement didn?t make sense to me first. Wasn?t reconciling your differences a key part of forgivingread more
Since Florida?s developed a reputation for being the ?stranger than fiction? state (see: the FL man Twitter account for all the evidence you?ll ever need), I cringe when I see a novel that?s set there. Often, they?re written by people who?ve visited the state on a few family vacations, who need a creepy-crazy-yet-still-familiar backdrop for whatever they?re writing, so it becomes an over-the-topread more
As part of my challenge to talk to people from all backgrounds, with all kinds of beliefs, I?ve had a few conversations lately about writing letters to Congress. I?ve seen big, multi-page missives, short and succinct postcards, and everything in between, which got me wondering: What types of letters truly resonate? What gets through to a Senator or Congressman/Congresswoman, who?s dealing with dozens of issues ? and thousands of constituents, not to mention lobbyists andread more
Katy Perry gave me a colossal wake-up call on Saturday. And she did it using a tiny hamster and even tinier food.
On Friday, Perry released her latest lyric video for her new song, ?Chained to the Rhythm.? At first, it ? and the video itself ? are poppy, upbeat and lighthearted. Just like the popular YouTube series, someone?s making miniature burgers, spaghetti and tacos for a hamster in a little playhouse, all set to electro-dance beats, complete with a follow-the-bouncing-hamster-emojiread more
As much as I cringe at the thought of writing new year’s resolutions, I come up with a few (okay, sometimes several) every January, and 2017 is no different. I just carefully dodge the word ‘resolution,’ as if by calling it some other name, I won’t doom it to an early grave by Jan. 12th. Oddly enough, that often works*, but not because of the name change.
It?s largely because I get geeky with it, designing and printing out a card that I hang on my wall ? no,read more
At first, bullet journals seemed like nothing more than a smoke-and-mirrors case of slick rebranding. Keeping a standard journal seems run-of-the-mill, and so does maintaining a planner, but when you combine the two and give it a buzzy-yet-vague name: BOOM! It’s trendy.
You’ve heard it a million times before: When your stomach’s in knots, your mouth is dry, and inside you’re about three seconds from completely freaking out, you should calm down. Take deep breaths. Meditate. Do whatever you can to slow down and clear your mind.
But, as it turns out, you may just be making things worse.
Let’s be real: It’s hard not to roll your eyes at the very topic of self-help books. So many of them are treacly at best, filled with the sort of one-size-fits-all advice you grew up seeing on posters in middle school guidance counselors’ offices.
After working at Oprah.com for a few years, I felt like I?d seen it all. Books of every variety crossed my desk, but I soon learned there?s a select few that are absolutely worth your time. They?re often business orread more